It was the difference that created the feeling, not the conditions themselves.

You can’t be everything to everyone. At some point you need to make a choice of what truly matters to you and why.

Special as they may appear to us, articulating what makes you special requires a very precise awareness of your existence, and that’s hard to come by.

Everything we do is part of a complex pattern of interwoven relationships which mix personal and professional life.

Hate and resentment are learned behaviors whose origin is traced to an evolved mental state that’s driving us to achieve some sort of goal. Ultimately they are about seeking a particular outcome. Here’s the thing: so is love and forgiveness.

Analysis – Break things down into tiny steps. Look at your feelings. Understand why you feel the way you do. This helps you overcome things like uncertainty, anger, fear. Analyze the problems you face. Don’t look at them as a whole. Break them down into chunks. Look at what you need in order to solve each tiny part of them. Even if you are looking at a dead end from a distance, apply the bit-by-bit approach. Solutions frequently present themselves through action.

Control is about creating that inner dialogue which makes those negative voices fall silent.

Every relationship is governed by motive, capability and reliability and these three factors become the core components of the trust equation.

Evolution has geared the human stress response to last about thirty seconds. It’s enough time to facilitate fight or flight. Evolution has not adapted our brains or bodies to handle weeks or months of prolonged stress.

Problems are not problems faced outside ourselves. They are problems that cast deep shadows inside us first. If we cannot find a way to deal with those shadows, the problems appear overwhelming. They raise up fears we all secretly have that can tear us apart.